By Frank Hammond
(Frank was co-author of Pigs in the Parlour - a text book on deliverance.
This article is an extract only and does not represent the entire text of the chapter)
My wife and I dealt with soul ties, through the ministry of deliverance, long before we had much understanding of them. In fact, long before someone introduced the designation "soul ties," we referred to them as "unholy alliances" or "perverse relationships." Through deliverance ministry, we encounter soul ties regularly and break their power over individuals' lives. Yes, soul ties are real, but what are they? What is the scriptural basis for understanding soul ties? How are they formed? Are they always demonic?
What danger is there in soul ties? How can they be broken?
THE POWER OF SOUL TIES
"Joined"
The word "joined" is used in relation to marriage. In Ephesians 5:31 we are told that a man is to be "JOINED" unto his wife. The literal meaning in Greek is: to cleave, stick to, glue, or cement. Another use of "joined" is found in Matthew 19:6 where we are told concerning marriage: "Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." "Joined" can be translated as "yoked together." Within marriage, one can plumb the heights and depths of human relationship.
The soul tie between husband and wife is pure and satisfying. The times of "coming together" can be a ministry to one another under the anointing of the Holy Spirit.
GOOD SOUL TIES
Soul ties are formed when two or more persons become bonded together. Some soul ties are good, and others are evil; some are holy, and some are ungodly. Our Holy God has ordained and sanctioned the soul ties of bonding between children and parents, husbands and wives, friends with friends and Christians with one another as members of the Body of Christ. Good soul ties are founded upon the law of love, which the Bible calls "the law of Christ" Gal. 6:2, and "the royal law" Jas. 2:8. Thus, the soul ties approved by God
represent the bonding of persons together in agape love.
Ties of Marriage
In marriage, God purposes that a man and a woman "be joined...and the two shall become one flesh" Eph. 5:31. They are to be bonded by love. "So husbands ought to love their own wives..." Eph. 5:28. Within marriage, sexual union is an expression of God-approved love. The Bible declares that in marriage God joins a husband and wife, and let not man, through divorce, put asunder what God has joined together (see Matt. 19:6). Thus, divorce violently rends soul ties which God created. This tearing is what causes such pain, sorrow and trauma in divorce.
Ties of Friendship
"The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul" I Sam. 18:1. Here is another type of soul tie which is pure and based upon love. Jonathan loved David even to the laying down of his rights to the throne of Israel. "There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother" Prov. 18:24. The Hebrew word for "friend" is rea, meaning "companion or lover." Oh, what a Friend we have in Jesus! For, "A friend loves at all times" Prov. 17:17. Pure and holy soul ties are always based on godly love.
Parent/Child Soul Ties
Concerning Jacob's relationship with his son, Benjamin, we read, "His father loves him ...His life is bound up in the lad's life, and his soul knit with the lad's soul" Gen. 44:20, 30, Amplified Bible. Although Jacob's love for Benjamin was intensified because he believed his son, Joseph, had been killed; yet it illustrates the soul tie that exists between a parent and child.
Soul Ties Between Christians
The Church is made up of many members who are knit together and built up together through love. "The whole body joined and knit together by what everyjoint supplies... causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love" Eph. 4:16 (emphasis mine). The relationship between Christians in the Body of Christ is compared to the relationship of the various parts of the human body. The soul ties formed between members of the Body of Christ are not only desirable but necessary, for they enable the Body of Christ to mature and fulfill its calling.
DEMONIC SOUL TIES
Demonic soul ties are perversions of the good and holy. Good soul ties are founded upon love; demonic soul ties are founded upon lust. Remember that Satan cannot go beyond his limited rights: He must work within the framework of what he is allowed. When he gets the opportunity, he will pervert that which is pure.
Ties Formed Through Fornication
"Do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For 'The two', He says, 'shall become one flesh'" I Cor. 6:16. Through sexual relationships outside of marriage, demonic soul ties are forged. Those who engage in sex outside of marriage, become the one flesh which God purposed solely for a husband and wife. Perverse soul ties are not limited to those formed between persons of the opposite sex; they are also formed between those of the same sex through sodomy. Homosexuals, both gays and lesbians, attempt to remove the stigma of their sin by referring to themselves as"lovers," but the Word of God declares that their motivation is lust: "Even their women changed the natural use for what is against nature: Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another" Rom. 1:26,27 (emphasis mine).
When Adam needed a companion with whom he could become one flesh, every animal in all creation passed in review before him, and "Adam gave names to all livestock, and to the birds of the air, and to every [wild] beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found a helper meet (suitable, adapted, completing) for him" Gen. 2:20, AMP. A soul tie with an animal is a perversion.
{ Insert by Priscilla: Inordinate affection for animals comes from insecurity and woundedness and the enemy will take advantage to put unclean thoughts about animals in our minds...Our society is full of such outward expressions of honoring life of animals more than disdaining the abortion of human babies, and worrying more about animal abuse, than research that could save a child's life. Beastiality is joked about on such shows as "Saturday Night Live". To laugh at such jokes is to entertain evil thoughts, and approve of such behavior. Loving your car or dog is not wrong, but when any portion of our love is not pure, and is adulterated by possessiveness, control, or perversion...we are talking about lust. Lust is idolatry, or "adultery " in old testament terms. It represents selfish love. For example if God tells you...."get rid of that animal...you love it and spend time more with it than I ", would we be willing? God loves all His creation. I am sure he hates abuse to animals as much as abuse to humans, but not MORE. }
Ties With Evil Companions
"Do not be deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character" I Cor. 15:33, AMP. One is readily influenced by his friends, so it is important to choose righteous and holy friends. Soul ties with evil companions will ensnare you, and you will find yourself entangled in wickedness. "Thorns and snares are in the way of the perverse; He who guards his soul will be far from them...Make no friendship with an angry man....lest you learn his ways and
set a snare for your soul" Prov. 22:5, 24, 25. (emphasis mine)
Perverted Family Ties
God decrees, "A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife" Eph. 5:31. When the father gives his daughter in marriage, he severs the soul tie with her in consideration of her husband. When the filial soul tie is not severed at the proper time, then that which was good and beneficial becomes evil through control and possessiveness. For one to "leave his father and mother" is not to be understood as breaking relationships with parents. Rather, it speaks of a maturing of the parent/child relationship that accompanies the maturing of the son or daughter. One must never stop honoring his father and mother, for this is commandment with promise. (see Exod. 20:12).
Soul Ties With The Dead
Bible examples of mourning for the dead teach us that days of mourning should be limited. Mourning normally lasted from seven to thirty days. When Jacob died, Joseph "observed seven days of mourning for his father" Gen. 50:10. "Now when the congregation saw that Aaron was dead, all the house of Israel mourned for Aaron thirty days" Num. 20:29. " And the children of Israel wept for Moses...thirty days. So the days of weeping and mourning for Moses ended" Deut. 34:8. Prolonged mourning may indicate the continuation of the soul tie, and the stress of extended grief will create an opportunity for spirits of sorrow, grief and loneliness to enter.
Demonic Soul Ties Within The Church
Sometimes there are factions within the Body of Christ which oppose the Body unity sung about in the familiar hymn, "Blest be the tie that binds our hearts in Christian love". There are evil soul ties represented by cliques which cause division in the Body. Such groups oppose Church unity and the blending of the Body together. "But God composed the body, having given greater honor to the part which lacks it, that there should be no schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another." I Cor. 12:24,25 Cliques work against the mutual care which Christ designed for His Church in "tempering the body together," KJV.
{ Cliques tend to form out of a spirits of intolerance, and favoritism, competition and selfish ambition. - note by Priscilla}
BREAKING DEMONIC SOUL TIES
Through our study we have come to see that demonic soul ties are indeed prevalent and more far-reaching than we may have supposed. As evil soul ties are identified, what can be done to reverse their power? First, repentance toward God is necessary. God's ordinances have been violated. Lust has taken us beyond the boundaries of purity which the Lord set for us. Even if the sin was committed in ignorance, it still requires forgiveness. Ask God NOW to forgive you for each perverse soul tie which you have created. Second, spoil the devil's house by taking back all that he has gained against you. Confess before God that Satan has no further legal right to you. Declare each demonic soul tie that you have identified is now destroyed in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Third, command the evil sprits associated with the soul ties to leave you in the Name of Jesus Christ, the Son of God.
Note: Be as specific as possible when breaking soul ties. Soul ties are formed with each person with whom one has had sexual relationships outside of marriage. Name each sexual partner by name and verbally renounce the ties with each one. Are there soul ties with animals? Are there any wrong ties with family members? Are there abnormal ties with pastors or people within the Body of Christ? Have spiritually perverse soul ties been created through association with occultists such as: diviners, astrologers, witches,
charmers, mediums, necromancers, hypnotists, ear piercers (Exod. 21:5, 6), tattoo artists (Lev. 19:28), blood covenantors, or unholy vows with Free Masons, fraternity brothers or sorority sisters?
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This is from a book by Elizabeth Greer on repentance. But it is very effective.. I use it often in ministry... and it has helped many. The words are not magic... so rephrase it to suit your situation as you need. Use it as a guideline...
Joy
Breaking ungodly soul ties.
God deals with us and our sins point by point. Make a list of all ungodly soul ties you have and thoroughly repent each... renouncing ancestral ties with Masonry and witchcraft, white or black, and repenting on their behalf so that each one is thoroughly broken and you are released from the bondage they produce. Also any act of adultery and fornication where in Gods sight we become as one flesh.. so those ties too are broken.
Prayer number one.
Heavenly Father I come boldly to the throne of grace to receive forgiveness and mercy in my time of need for Your help.I confess and renounce all ungodly soul ties that have been in my heart and mind and acknowledge that I have been deceived by the father of lies.These ungodly soul ties have been constructed in my life through my own sin and selfishness through my thoughts, words, deeds, immoral behaviour, vain imaginings, physical intimacy and my emotional attachment to people or possessions.
In the Name and authority of the Lord Jesus Christ of Nazareth and by the power of His shed blood, I repent for the sins of these ungodly soul ties and ask You to break the power and hold of each ungodly soul tie in my life. I reject and renounce each and every ungodly tie and pray for total release. Heavenly Father, I ask You to reveal any facts or details that need confession and repentance for my total cleansing. I pray You will cover my sins with the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ.
I declare every legal hold and legal ground of the enemy binding me, broken and destroyed. Lord Jesus please reclaim all ground the I have surrendered to the enemy because of these ties. I command all wicked spirits that entered my life because of these ties, due to my sin and ancestral sin, through this ground to leave me now.
Heavenly Father I pray that You would continue to establish within me the Godly soul ties that You have appointed for my life. I acknowledge that the first Godly soul tie is to love You with all my heart, soul, mind and strength. I pray that you would cause me to cleave to my spouse in the Godly way that you have appointed and to cleave to that which is good and hate with a passion that which is evil.
Heavenly Father I pray that You would renew my mind, strengthen my conscience and protect me from all ungodly soul ties. Lord I ask you to silence the sources of condemnation and close all the doors satan has used to bring destruction into my life. Thank You, Lord Jesus for Your life and death, mercy and forgiveness. I pray in the name and authority of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
Prayer to release others.
Once you have thoroughly repented, this prayer is for the release of your partners in soul ties. There is an exchange deposit of a portion of them in you and you in them as a result of oneness of the flesh. and/or mother, daughter father, son relationships... if these have been ungodly. This prayer releases the power of the Lord Jesus to retrieve any part of your soul that has been held by another and to cleanse and cancel that relationship with them. It also releases any deposits back to them. This is also helpful with divorce. Be sure to put each persons name into the blank...
Prayer number two.
Heavenly Father I cancel and break The ungodly side of all relationships established by satan and wicked spirits because of birth or my sinful behaviour. I command everything that came to me because of these relationships to leave me now. I pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ that You will minister to ----------- and release any part of his/her soul that is tied to me now. I forgive ------------ for any part he/she played in my sinfulness. I ask You to retrieve all of my soul that is with any other person back to me now. I further ask that You will provide cleansing, healing and restoration to each person involved. Thank You, Lord Jesus for Your faithfulness to me. Amen.
