Basic Introduction to Soul Ties

What a soul tie is
The Bible speaks of what is today known as soul ties. In the Bible, it doesn't use the word soul tie, but it speaks of them when it talks about souls being knit together, becoming one flesh, etc. A soul tie can serve many functions, but in it's simplest form, it ties two souls together in the spiritual realm. Soul ties between married couples draw them together like magnets, while soul ties between fornicators can draw a beaten and abused woman to the man which in the natural realm she would hate and run from, but instead she runs to him even though he doesn't love her, and treats her like dirt. In the demonic world, unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic garbage through. I helped a young man not too long ago break free from downright awful visitations from demons, all due to an ungodly soul tie he had with a witch. The man was a Christian, and the only thing that allowed her to send demonic torment his way, is through the soul tie. Other soul ties can do things such as allow one person to manipulate and control another person, and the other person is unaware to what is going on or knows what is going on, but for no real reason, allows it to continue.

How soul ties are formed
I believe there are other ways which soul ties are formed, but here are some that I am aware of.

Sexual relations: Godly soul ties are formed when a couple are married (Ephesians 5:31, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."), and the Godly soul tie between a husband and the wife that God intended him to have is unbreakable by man (Mark 10:7-9). However, when a person has ungodly sexual relations with another person, an ungodly soul tie is then formed (1 Corinthians 6:16, "What? Know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh."). This soul tie fragments the soul, and is destructive. People who have many past relationships find it very difficult to 'bond' or be joined to anybody, because their soul is fragmented.

Close relationships: King David and Jonathan had a good soul tie as a result of a good friendship (1 Samuel 18:1, "And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul."), but bad soul ties can form from bad relationships as well. Idolizing somebody can cause a bad soul tie.

I have heard too that you can create a soul tie with a rock group by becoming obsessed with their music. Which explains the strong pull towards certain music that seems almost irresistible.

Vows, commitments and agreements: Vows are known to bind the soul (Numbers 30:2), marriage itself consists of vows and binds the two people together (Ephesians 5:31), therefore I have little reason to overlook the concept of vows or commitments as being a means to create a soul tie.

How to break a soul tie
[ this needs to be done for each person - p]
1. If any sins were committed to cause this soul tie, repent of them! Fornication is perhaps one of the most common ways to create nasty soul ties.

2. If gifts were given to you by the other person in connection with the sin or unholy relationship, such as rings, flowers, cards, bras, etc. I would get rid of them! Such things symbolize the ungodly relationship, and can hold a soul tie in place. If you are still friends or in a relationship (just now it's no longer an ungodly relationship), like say a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, except you've repented of and forsaken the unholy practices you used to do in your relationship, then I don't feel it is necessary to destroy all the gifts and things that you have been given. I would still encourage you to get rid of anything that symbolizes the ungodly practices in the relationship though, such as if a guy gives a girl a bra and panties with his initials on them during fornication. I wouldn't encourage you to hang on to such things that symbolize sin or that are wrong to give each other before marriage. Things such as flowers and love letters given during an adultery should be destroyed.

3. Any rash vows or commitments made that played a part in forming the soul tie should be renounced and repented of, and broken in Jesus' name. Even things like "I will love you forever", or "I could never love another man!" need to be renounced. They are spoken commitments that need to be undone verbally. As Proverbs 21:23 tells us, "Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles." The tongue has the ability to bring the soul great troubles and bondage.

4. Forgive that person if you have anything against them.

5. Renounce the soul tie. Do this verbally, and in Jesus' name. Example, "In Jesus' name, I now renounce any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and ______ as a result of _______________ (fornication, etc.)."

6. Break the soul tie in Jesus' name! Do this verbally using your authority in Jesus. Example, "I now break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _________ as a result of ______________ (fornication, etc.) in Jesus' name."

This is a basic guide that will help you understand how to break ungodly soul ties. You can learn more about soul ties in the official teaching on soul ties.

Step #1 to breaking soul ties:
Repent of any sins that involve that person

If you have had adultery, fornication, etc., it is vital that you repent of those sins and receive God's forgiveness for it before you can go about breaking the soul tie.

Step #2 to breaking soul ties:
Forgive the person of any wrongs done

If you have any unforgiveness in your heart against the person, you must choose to release that bitterness and forgive the person. The Bible is clear that bitterness defiles a man.

Step #3 to breaking soul ties:
Renounce any covenants made with the person

If you have made any spoken commitments, vows or even simply saying, "I will love you forever", it has ample power in the spiritual realm to bind the soul to that person (form a soul tie). The tongue is quite capable of binding the soul and can be a great means to create soul ties:

Proverbs 6:2, "Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth."

These spoken covenants need to be renounced in order to break the soul tie. When you renounce something, you basically take them back verbally. You spoke them verbally, now it is time to take them back verbally. For example, if a woman has had a soul tie with a man who was not the one, and said she would never be able to love another man, then this needs to be renounced if she wants to break the soul tie. Such a woman could renounce it by saying something like, "I renounce having said that I will never be able to love another man."

Step #4 to breaking soul ties:
Get rid of any gifts exchanged

Gifts also symbolize a relationship and can hold a soul tie in place. If a person has a ring, personal gifts, cards, jewelry and other 'relationship gifts' from a previous relationship, then it is time to get rid of them. Holding onto such gifts symbolizes that the relationship is still in good standing and can actually hold the soul tie in place even after it has been renounced. You can learn more about the power of symbols in the teaching Symbolic Representations.

Step #5 to breaking soul ties:
Renounce and break the soul tie in Jesus' name

Verbally renouncing something carries a lot of weight in the spiritual realm. Just as vows can bind the soul, renouncing can release the soul from bonds. Jesus said that whatsoever you shall loose will be loosed in heaven (the heavenly realm, or spiritual realm). You can renounce and loose yourself from an ungodly soul tie by simply speaking something like this from your heart:

"I now renounce and loose myself from any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and ________, and I break these ungodly soul ties in Jesus' name."

Soul Ties
By Geri McGhee - Copyright © 2004

Through “Soul Ties,” you can carry the familiar spirits, the addictions, sicknesses, characteristics, ideas, habits, opinions and emotions, etc. of the persons with whom you have a soul tie. Many people are looking to the world to find solutions to their problems when the answer could lie in a soul tie. There have been many occasions when I have seen people instantly healed of pain when soul ties are broken.

This has been especially true when a person repents of sin, forgives those who have hurt them physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, spiritually or medically and breaks the soul tie that was formed through the offense. Grief and anger (vexation) towards the offender will hold the pain in whatever area that was hurt.

ECC 11:10 says,  “So, remove vexation (grief and anger) from your heart and put away pain from your body.”

A soul tie involves the joining of a person’s human spirit and personality (his mind, will and emotions), which includes his heart and conscience. A soul tie is the joining or knitting together of a relationship. A soul tie cannot be seen with physical eyes. But if you could see as God sees or as angels and demons see, you would see people linked and tied together in the spirit realm. There are good and Godly soul ties and there are soul ties, which are evil and ungodly.

Godly soul ties are based upon God’s righteous law of love. Some examples of Godly soul ties are when like-minded believers are joined in the Lord, marriage partners, parents and children, believers to pastors, pastors to believers, etc.  God approves of these kinds of soul ties. They represent the joining of persons together through agape love. In Colossians 2:2 it describes this kind of Godly soul tie where it says, ”that their hearts may be encouraged, having been Knit together in love, and attaining to all the wealth that comes from the full assurance of understanding, resulting in a true knowledge of God’s mystery, that is, Christ Himself.”

Soul ties can be weak and loose or strong and overpowering depending upon the sin and strength and commitment of the relationship. Demonic soul ties are perversions of the good and holy and they can be yokes about our necks. Soul ties can affect us in a good or bad way.

1CO 12:26 says,  ”and if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; If one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it.”

The relationship Jonathan and David had is an example of a good and Godly soul tie. 1SA 18:1 says, “Now it came about when he had finished speaking to Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as himself.” Many in the homosexual community who wish to justify their lifestyle say that Jonathan and David had a homosexual relationship, which is absolutely untrue.

We are opened up to ungodly soul ties through:

 Any violation of the Word of God (DEU 28:25).

 Laying hands upon anyone too suddenly (1TI 5:22).

 Receiving demonic impartations by allowing people to impart through the laying on of unholy hands (1TI 4:14;

2 TI 1:6).

 Being taught by false teachers (LUK 6:40).

 Sexual sin (includes fornication, adultery, homosexuality, incest, bestiality, petting, kissing, touching in an

Inappropriate way, pornography, etc.) (1TH 4:3; LEV 20:12; LEV 20:15).

 Perverted family ties: the soul tie between parent and child is healthy and beneficial, except when it continues into

The adult life of the child by being controlled by that parent.

 Touching the dead. NUM 19:13 says

 ”Anyone who touches a corpse, the body of a man who has died, and does not purify himself, defiles the tabernacle of the Lord; and that person shall be cut off from Israel. Because the water for impurity was not sprinkled on him, he shall be unclean; his uncleanness is still on him.” 2CO 6:17 says ”’Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate,’ says the Lord. ‘And do not touch what is unclean

(Grk: in a ceremonial sense, that which must be abstained from according to the Levitical law, lest impurity be contracted) and I will welcome you.’”

 Through cutting or tattooing the body (LEV 19:28) (LEV 21:5).

 Grief: grieving over people and animals vowing to never let them go (2CO 7:10).

 Making vows to be or not be like another person causes you to receive their image (NUM 30:2; MAT 5:33).

 Joining self with a harlot. (1CO 6:15-16).

 Joining yourself with unbelievers (2CO 6:14).

 Inordinate affection for people and animals: Making idols out of friends, children, people, parents, mates, animals. You become like your idols (PSA 135:18; PSA 106:19-20).

 Evil companions. (PRO 13:20).

 Through wounding another’s con- science. 1CO 8:12 says: ”And thus, by sinning against the brethren and wounding (to pattern after, instill a pattern, imprint) their conscience when it is weak, you sin against Christ.”

 Through judging others, unforgiveness and bitterness (ROM 2:1; MAT 5:25; MAT 18:34). Holding unforgiveness or bitterness towards another person causes you to receive their image instead of God’s image. You become bitter or better (ROM 8:29).

 Through associations where there is compromise (1KI 11:2).

 Through selling drugs and alcohol or buying or receiving drugs and alcohol. Also, the sins committed under the influence of drugs and alcohol. (MAR 9:42, I COR 6:15-16).

 Through the defilement that comes in through associating with a gossip (PRO 20:19; HEB 12:15).

 Though keeping company with an angry person (PRO 22:24).

  Controlling others or through being controlled by another (ACT 15:10; MAT 23:15).

 Evil companions (PRO 13:20).

 Being a malicious witness (EXO 23:1).

 Giving blood or receiving blood (ACT 15:29).

 Through making idols out of people or animals by exchanging the truth of God for a lie & worshiping the creature rather than the creator (ROM 1:23).

 Making pledges (PRO 11:15).

 Through eating a meal with so-called believers who are sexually immoral, covetous, idolaters, revilers, drunkards or who are swindlers. (1CO 5:11).

 Through accidents, physical, mental, sexual, spiritual and emotional wounds.

 Through doctors, medicine, hospitals and patients, etc. GAL 5:19-21 Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery (Strong’s Reference #5331g “pharmakeia” - the use of medicine, drugs or spells), enmities, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, disputes, dissensions, factions, envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you just as I have forewarned you that those who practice such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Soul ties can be broken when we repent and take accountability for our sin, forgive those who have hurt us or those with whom we have sinned, ask God to forgive us and break the ungodly soul ties. MAT 18:18 says, “Truly I say to you, whatever you shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.”

God’s Word says through repentance, He will gather us from all the places where we have been scattered through soul ties.

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Soul Ties 1

Even though the English Bible sometimes uses the words interchangeably, the soul and spirit are not the same. We are a triune being, created in the image of God, with a body, soul and spirit. And just like our triune Godhead, those three are separate yet inseparable.

1 Thessalonians 5:23 "… and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ."

Because of this inter-relationship, what happens in the spiritual realm affects the physical realm and what happens in the physical affects the spiritual because they are connected.

Let me explain it this way. Have you ever been sick and because of it became uninterested in seeking the Lord and thereby strayed from him? Or, have you ever strayed from the Lord and because of it became sick?

(if needed???example of Leo)

So what is the difference between the soul and the spirit?

We are a spirit being, we live in a body and we possess a soul. The real person inside of us is our spirit. Our soul consists of our mind, will and emotions. Our bodies are the temple in which we live.

When we are born again, we are linked to Christ through the spirit.

1 Cor 6:17 “But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.” You receive the mind of Christ by having your mind renewed by the Spirit of God and coming to the place of having ears to hear what the spirit speaks to you.

In the garden, Adam was not controlled by his soul and did not live in the soulish realm. Because His spirit was united with the Lord, He truly walked in the spirit and ruled from His spirit, and was not controlled by the will or dictates of His soul.

After the fall, man’s spirit died, it lost its unity of being joined to the Lord and was now joined to the devil. Everything your flesh loves, Satan loves. Everything your flesh hates, Satan hates. Man’s fallen nature is married to the things of the god of this world. You don’t have to teach a child to be selfish, to steal or anything that is wrong. You have to train them not to do evil. Much of what you are doing with a child is soul training because until we come to the place of being born again of the spirit of God, we are controlled and live by our flesh and its dictates.

The only reason that some don’t do the evil things many others do is because they have accepted that soul training and accepted the laws and rules of society. One of the problems today is many children are not receiving that soul training they need to be responsible adults. We are not morally good because we are born good. We are all born with a fallen sinful nature. When we are born again, the battle between the soul and spirit begins. That’s Romans 6-7

So how do demonic spirits vex and possess people? It is through their souls, and their bodies.

An example of a bodily demonic affliction is: Luke 13:11, "And, behold, there was a woman which had a spirit of infirmity eighteen years, and was bowed together, and could in no wise lift up herself."

An example of a mental demonic affliction we call being demon possessed: Matthew 17:15,18, "Lord, have mercy on my son: for he is lunatic, and sore vexed: for ofttimes he falleth into the fire, and oft into the water... And Jesus rebuked the devil; and he departed out of him: and the child was cured from that very hour."

Our souls were not born again!

The Bible is clear that even though our spirits are born again, our mind, will and emotions still need to be cleansed. Being born of the spirit and the saving of the soul are two different things.

1 Peter 1:22-23 "Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit … Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and abideth forever."

Our spirit is instantly reborn the moment we accept Christ as our Lord and savior, but our souls have to be transformed by the renewing of our minds to the Word of God, according to Romans 12:2.

Our souls can carry over much spiritual defilement from our past lifestyles. Because their soul still contains defilements that need to be washed clean, many believers can continue to struggle with sin even after accepting Christ.

The Soul vs. The Spirit:

We must not let our soul rule us. The soul will always try to be in control and that is why it is of the utmost importance to feed our spirit with the Word of God, worship and prayer. 

A spiritual principle is this, “What you feed grows, what you starve dies. You don’t satisfy anything by feeding it; you only increase its capacity to grow.” So, what are you feeding the most, your spiritual man or your flesh by worldly things and entertainment?

Gal.5:16 “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.”  God wants us to be free from any and all types of bondages of the enemy. Ungodly soul ties have kept many from the destinies that God has ordained for them. The ungodly ties have suppressed the eternal purposes of God, and frustrated plans for many believers who want to serve God.  Many are hiding behind a mask, but behind the mask are hurt, discouragement and broken hearts.  The pain is hidden on the outside, but it is very real on the inside. It is time to take off the mask, be honest and get free.

An ungodly soul tie is when the mind, will and emotions of a person becomes entangled to the point where their thoughts are not always their own, when a person is unnaturally affected by the will, the emotions and desires of someone or something else. You can also be soul-tied to things. When things in your life are keeping you from doing what God has called you to do, it is an ungodly tie. He wants you to have good things but He does not want things to have your heart.

What is a soul tie?
Soul-ties are exactly what it sounds like. It is the spiritual joining or linking together of two souls which can bring fourth both beneficial results or negative results. The Bible doesn't use the term soul tie, but it speaks of souls being knit together or becoming one flesh. A soul tie can serve many functions, but in its simplest form, it ties two souls together in the spiritual realm.

Soul ties between fornicators can draw a beaten and abused woman to the man which in the natural realm she would hate and run from, but instead she runs to him even though he doesn't love her, and mistreats her. In the demonic world, unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic bondage through. Other soul ties can do things such as allow one person to manipulate and control another person, and the other person is unaware of what is going on or knows what is going on, but for no rational reason, allows it to continue. Unhealthy soul-ties include relationships that are characterized by manipulation, guilt, emotional abuse, co-dependency, unnatural affection, envy or lust. You can tell a soul-tie by its fruit.

A godly soul-tie will strengthen your emotional wholeness and walk with God. It will bear the fruit of love, fidelity, loyalty, honor and righteousness.

An ungodly soul-tie will bear the fruit of the flesh and not the spirit; as hatred, resentment, manipulation, anger, strife, jealousy, controlling others. They will keep you from a good relationship with God and bring bondage instead of freedom into your life.

A godly soul tie is a soul tie that is within the will of God for your life. An ungodly soul tie is when you have a soul tie outside the will of God for your life.

The most important soul tie is that between you and the Lord.

LK. 10:27 “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; this is the first commandment.”

Anything that prevents you from that is idolatry. Anything that comes between you and God, that keeps you from serving Him and loving Him above all, is an idol, a little god in your life. Anything that keeps you from obeying Him and His Word is an idol and must be broken and removed from your life if you are to serve Him with a pure and whole heart and partake of the Kingdom.

God loves us so much He has a plan for each one of us. When we stay connected to Him and obey His will for our lives it will protect you from becoming tied to Ungodly people or getting caught up in doing ungodly things.

If you start meditating on and attaching your self to things, people and places that are outside the will of the Father, you start losing control over your own thoughts that the Holy Spirit places in your heart, and the longer this goes on the further you separate your self from fellowship with the Father.  Your spiritual ears become dull to hearing His voice, and when you cannot hear His voice you cannot do what He is prompting you to do. He is always trying to warn us of dangers that are trying to come and He is trying to show you the way of escape and keep you from harm.

Soul Ties outside first person relationships

Though the most common soul tie is with another person you know or have had a relationship with, you can also be soul tied to an animal, or even a thing.

I have seen people so tied to an animal that it was more important than anything else in their life, even more than caring for family members. They will waste thousands of dollars to try and save a dog that has to die.

Many are soul tied to television?  Are you so preoccupied with television that you cannot hear the Holy Spirit speaking to you? Many women will let everything else go to watch a soap opera. Soaps can be very dangerous spiritually, because it is a fantasy world. Everyone cheats on everyone, and does all sorts of evil and that plants seeds in your soul. Many get so tied up in the soap that they act and think as if it is real. They make prayer requests for actors in the soap. Many need to cut and sever that tie with this ungodly world of imagination.

Ps.1:1 “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.” If there is anything that meets all 3 of these, it is the soap opera.

2 Cor. 10:4-5 “(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations (that speaks of images in the mind and reasonings), and every high thing (wrong attitude) that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”

We need to have the spirit of our minds renewed so that we will think and live our lives according to the truth of God’s word and not the dictates and morals of the TV show makers.

Children believe and get so caught up in what they are seeing; they try to act it out, sometimes putting themselves in danger. Children can become soul tied at a very young age to the things of the world. Many are soul tied to a certain music group or kind of music, like rap and they are like a drug addict in their relationship to that music.

Music has tremendous power. It can be used to calm the savage beast or one tormented as when David played for King Saul, or music can turn the calm into a beast. God created music and Satan corrupted it. Unfortunately, since the corrupted music is what appeals to and pumps up our flesh, that is what most want to hear.

Spiritual music doesn’t appeal to your flesh, but your spirit. So the carnal minded prefer the fleshly “Christian” music to spiritual music because it makes their flesh feel good. But that doesn’t impress God. We need to consider why God created music in the first place. It was for worship. What does you music lead you into?

Eph. 4:23-24 “And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.”

Soul Ties within first person relationships

There are different levels of soul-ties; physical, soulish and spiritual. All three levels of relationship can occur between two friends, co-workers or church members, between a brother and sister, a parent and child and of course a husband and wife.

The marital relationship is where the three all come together in the most intense and intimate way. Make NO mistake about it, the sexual relationship between a married couple involves all three parts of our being, your body, soul and spirit. It has never been just a physical act and never will be because of the way God designed it to be. He designed us to be joined together and to become one, not just physically.

Gen.2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

Our souls become scattered because of spiritual soul-ties with others we are not married to. This can prevent us from fully giving ourselves to our spouse. If you had a previous girl friend or spouse and are divorced and remarried, those old ties must be broken or you will have serious problems in your marriage.

When our soul is divided it affects our ability to receive from others and God. You can’t received the love from your spouse you desperately desire and need, though they offer it and tell you they love you, they show it in what they do, but it doesn’t get through and so you conclude they aren’t giving it.

Other soul-ties will affect your ability to trust your spouse. Because you are unable to receive the love that they offer, you will deem them unworthy of trust even without thinking about it. The problem is you are double-minded according to James chapter 1.

This problem destroys marriages as it does ones ability to receive from God and to trust God. This is why ungodly soul-ties must be broken. They produce death, instead of life.

Women as nothing more than meat

We have to stop thinking of sex as just a physical act because it is not just a physical act, but a spiritual one. Through such wrong thinking the feminist movement has surrendered women to predatory men who have taken women's newfound freedom as the perfect opportunity to surrender all sexual responsibility, respect and gallantry.

The problem with the problem of treating women as meat is that many of the solutions offered up are far worse than the problem. The Taliban had an easy and perverse solution, and that was to treat women as prisoners. To completely cover up the female form with a burqa and shut women out of Afghani public and professional life is even worse than being forced to hear about the latest exploits of Paris Hilton and Britney Spears.

On the other hand, making the case that there is nothing wrong with women freely displaying their bodies and embracing their sexuality in any way they desire is equally perverse because it supports pornography, which coarsens our culture, and degrades women.

An important move in learning not to treat women as meat is to restore the sundered link between love and sex. Porn is not possible if sex is widely seen as the way to express love. If sex is nothing more than scratching an itch, it cannot be the physical consequence of love and trust. Love is never casual, and when sex becomes casual it cannot serve the needs of love. The best way to reestablish this link between love and sex is to teach that the only satisfying context for this linkage is marriage, and marriage as a place where men and women deeply love and deeply trust one another.

In Conclusion:

Gal.5:16 “This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.”  Ungodly soul-ties will keep you from the destiny God has ordained for you.

Remember that we have been made in the image of God and His likeness, but if we do not stay focused on walking in His likeness the devil will try to get us to follow some other image and we will become like the image or likeness we follow after.

There are many people that want to do the will of God and desire to have a deeper relationship with Him, however at the same time they do not want to let go of the people, places or things that are tied to their deepest emotions.

If soul ties are not dealt with they can cause your heart to harden. You will start justifying them and turn away from the Word of God or when you hear the Word, you start only hearing what fits into the mold of the soul tie instead of the truth.

The devils job is to try and steal your soul and if he can help you stay tied in an ungodly way to the wrong person, thing, place or habit he will do that.  As long as you are bound he will continue to try digging you deeper into sin and keep you from serving God with all your heart.

Lets get free from ungodly soul-ties and live free as children of the living God.

We already know that there are many kinds of soul ties and at different levels. Some develop soul ties with animals, imaginary characters, inanimate objects and more. Most soul-ties men create in the world are ungodly and unhealthy for our living a victorious overcoming Christian life. This is a broad subject and so we are not trying to fully cover all kinds of soul-ties in detail and we are not dealing with those that strictly have to do with the unsaved.

The positive effects of a godly soul ties:

Here is an example of parent/child soul-ties between Jacob and Benjamin. Gen.44:20, “his father loveth him… 30 his life is bound up in the lad’s life;” Jacob’s love for Benjamin was intensified because he believed Joseph was dead. The problem in parent/child soul-ties can come when there is no leaving and cleaving for marriage, when we must separate certain aspects of our parental ties in order to have a healthy marriage.

Soul-Ties between friends. 1 Samuel 18:1,3-4, “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. … v.3 Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle.”

David and Jonathan formed a covenant because they loved each other so deeply. Their souls were tied or joined together. The stronger the bonding or soul ties between friends the deeper and more lasting the relationship is. Also the emotional and mental strengths of the one will sustain the other in times of adversity and allows them to rejoice with each other in the times of victory. They drew encouragement, security and fellowship through their relationship.

When love between friends is pure and not polluted by selfish desires, the bond between will be a blessing. Jesus speaks of this kind of love in John 15:13 “Greater love hath no man than this that a man lay down his life for his friends.”

In order to have this kind of friendship, you have to be very selective and have God’s wisdom. The Holy Spirit will teach you how to have this kind of relationship. It takes people that have a pure and giving heart that put their love in action. If you have a close friend in your life right now and they have these characteristics; that is good. If they are selfish and controlling, this friendship could become dangerous, because your souls are knit together, emotionally and this is not a Godly kind of soul tie.

The Bible warns against entering ungodly relationships. Prov.1:10, 15; “My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not. . . . Walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path” Scriptures like this caution us against the wrong types of friends. God made us social creatures and meant for us to have social interaction and relationships with others, but we need discernment in them.

The early church in the book of acts was so explosive and experienced such power because they were unified in soul and spirit. Acts 4:32 “And the multitude of them that believed were of one heart and of one soul.”

Ungodly Soul-Ties

Soul ties can be a tremendous blessing for fellowship and growth in the Lord, but they can also be used for the devil's advantage. Our Heavenly Father designed the universe to function with natural and spiritual laws that bring freedom when obeyed, but bondage and destruction when broken and violated. Just as two souls can be knit or made to cleave together in a covenant relationship, they can also be tied or knit together to form bondage and enslavement.
Sexual union was ordained by God to make two marriage partners one flesh before God, but promiscuous premarital and extramarital affairs mysteriously ties ones soul to other partners. It is a spiritual tie between two people. We just don’t have any concept of how promiscuity outside of marriage scatters our souls and destroys our ability to be fully committed to one partner.  We seem to misunderstand the seriousness in these soul ties and it is because of a lack of knowledge that we suffer.
Since the sexual union of marriage ties two souls together as one, what do you think happens if a person commits fornication or adultery with another person outside of the marriage? They cleave together just as in marriage. The soul ties formed through illicit sexual involvement can be as strong and binding as those formed through marriage.

It is very important that married couples be satisfied in their sexual life. If one is not they may become strongly tempted to seek sexual fulfillment elsewhere. Remember if you or your spouse become tempted and start thinking about something you shouldn’t, a picture will develop in your mind and eventually it will be manifested in your life. Prov.23:7 “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:”

The key is being mutually satisfied. This can only come because two people give themselves to one another and they live to satisfy the needs of their mate. This will not happen if a couple lives by today’s self centered, self serving, me first standards. When two people are more interested in pleasing themselves than their mate, neither will be satisfied. You must give of yourself to receive, it’s an exchange program.

1 Cor.7:5 “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”

Matt.5:27-28 “You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Soul ties formed from sex outside of marriage causes a person to become defiled: Genesis 34:2-3, "And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul cleaved unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob..." This scripture gives an illustration of how fornication and immorality form defiling soul ties.

Gen 34:8 “And Hamor communed with them, saying the soul of my son Shechem longeth for your daughter...” Sexual involvement can form soul ties with such entangling tentacles that it is extremely hard to break off the relationship. This is why it is so common for a person to still have 'feelings' towards an ex-lover that they have no reason to be attracted to in that way. Even 20 years down the road, a person may still think of their first lover... because there is still a soul tie!

Demonic spirits can take advantage of ungodly soul ties, and use them to transfer spirits from one person to another. Ritual sex is one of the key means for getting new members into the bondage of spiritual whoredoms, like the worship of the goddess Diana in the book of Acts or witch covens and satanic groups today. 

Ezekiel 23:17, "And the Babylonians came to her into the bed of love, and they defiled her with their whoredom, and she was polluted with them."

The Dangers of fornication and adultery:
Sexual play in any form (intercourse, oral, etc.) is supposed to be for marriage alone. Sex outside of marriage will not only open a person up to diseases as HIV, but it also creates a spiritual bondage between partners, a link that can cause unclean or demonic bondages to transfer from one person to the other.

1 Corinthians 6:16-18, "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined (united) unto the Lord is one (with Him in) spirit. Flee fornication (sexual immorality). Every sin that a man commits is outside the body; but he that committeth fornication (sexual immorality) sinneth against his own body."

Obviously the two didn't get married, but something spiritual "happened" when they were joined physically in the act of sex. Their souls were joined or tied together. Often there are men who have an affair with a prostitute called a one night stand, and afterwards, even years later, they still think about that girl!

No matter what Satan tells you, and how he says it is ok to have sex outside of marriage as its okay because you are in love. Your life will become entangled and you will come into spiritual bondage.

The consequences of a casual affair can be harmful and enduring because the soul ties formed can actually bind a person for life. But God’s desire for us is spiritual freedom and liberty.

God so designed every woman that the first man who has sex with her takes a form of dominion over her. Gen.3:16 “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”

Her human spirit and soul is designed to respond to the man by supplying affection to him and being that mans fountain of satisfaction all through his life. God made woman to develop a longing desire for her first lover.

The dominion a soul tie gives a man over his lover is often so binding that he can insult and mistreat her but she seems helplessly enslaved to him. Many women will tolerate all kinds of abuse and they don’t understand why: They end up hating themselves, because they don’t understand about soul ties.

Women, if you are unable to give yourself fully to your husband, it could be because your spirit and emotions are being continually drawn back to a past lover. If a woman has sexual relations with several men, her spirit and soul seek out every one of them. Her spirit is scattered and torn apart.

A man is built so that when he has sexual intimacy with a woman, his spirit wants to protect, bless, nurture and provide for that woman. That is why there are men who are divorced and remarried who still want to protect and provide for their ex-wife.

When you know spiritual truth, it will set you free from the past, with all its failures and bondages that you can walk in a newness of freedom in Christ.

1 Cor.6:18-19 “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?”

Those that have been promiscuous, their souls are not only drawn to their former lovers, but when they marry they often have sexual and communication problems with their mates. They are unable to be sexually satisfied by their marriage partner because they suffer from a scattered soul and they cannot share themselves fully with their mate. So they often seek satisfaction, not only with multiple partners, but also through sexual experimentation.

Different Levels

There are different levels of soul-ties; physical, soul and spiritual. There are different ways in which we relate to others.

Let me use Pastor Korey and her husband, Pastor Luis for my example, but the story won’t be factual.

When they were young, Luis meats Korey at school and they say, “Hi” and they go on living their lives alongside each other. Their relationship is causal and on the physical level, not sexual, but physical.

After awhile, Luis decides he wants to get to know Korey a bit better and so he asks her out on a date. The more time he spends with her the more he likes her. Eventually they start talking about their hopes and dreams, their hurts and disappointments, about their desires and what they want to do with their lives and to accomplish in life. They are now communicating on the soul level. They are developing a soul-tie.

Next they decide to start going to church together and they begin to worship and then pray together. Now they are relating on a spiritual level because they are inviting the Lord into their relationship. Through praise, worship and prayer we communicate spirit to spirit.

Now all three levels of relationship can occur between two friends, co-workers or church members, between a brother and sister, a parent and child and of course a husband and wife.

The marital relationship is where the three all come together in the most intense and intimate way. Make NO mistake about it, the sexual relationship between a married couple involves all three parts of our being, your body, soul and spirit. It has never been just a physical act and never will be because of the way God designed it to be.

Soul Ties in Marriage

(Ephesians 5:31, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."). Sex inside marriage strengthens a God ordained soul-tie.

However, when a person has ungodly sexual relations with another person, which is any sexual relationship outside marriage, including physical, fantasy or otherwise, an ungodly soul tie is always formed. These soul ties are intimate bonds to another human being that were never intended by the Lord. This soul tie fragments the soul, and is destructive. People who have past relationships may find it very difficult to 'bond' or be joined to others, because their soul is fragmented.

When our souls are scattered because of soul-ties, we are spiritually tied to others. This can prevent us from fully giving ourselves to our spouse. If you had a previous girl friend or spouse and are divorced and remarried, those old ties must be broken or you will have serious problems. Before we can cleave, to someone new, you first have to let go of the one in your past. You have to cut and sever all old ties before you start your new life. If you go into a marriage with your past not put behind you, the enemy will try to resurrect your past.

When our soul is divided it affects our ability to receive from others and God. You can’t received the love from your spouse you desperately desire and need, though they offer it and tell you they love you, they show it in what they do, but it doesn’t get through and so you conclude they aren’t giving it. The one can give and give and do everything possible for the other, but it isn’t received and they get little or nothing in return. It is a one-way relationship.

Therefore, soul-ties will affect your ability to trust your spouse. You are unable to receive the love that they offer so you will deem them unworthy of trust even without thinking about it. The problem is you are double-minded.

This is James chapter 1. He said the one who asks but doubts will receive nothing from the Lord and then tells us in verse 8, “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.” He’s inconsistent. You can’t depend upon him.

Our inability to receive that which is being offered by our spouse or even God is because our soul is tied to another and that is a connection of our heart. This problem destroys marriages as it does ones ability to receive from God and to trust God. This is why many of us have soul-ties that must be broken, even if at one time they were not ungodly, as one with a past spouse that we are no longer married too. But now that tie must be broken because it will only produce bondage and death, instead of life.

Breaking these soul-ties with the person you’re divorced from is necessary to be truly free. Breaking the soul-ties of those old relationships can actually save your current marriage because now you are able to freely love your spouse with ALL of your heart.

Having a divided soul concerning your marriage will not only cause you to not be able to fully receive what is being given to you by your spouse but it will also stop you from fully giving yourself to your spouse. You can give ‘with all your heart’, but if your heart is divided, you don’t have q whole heart to give to begin with, so what you can give is limited by how much you have to give, a fragment.

There have been stories of wives who feel like the other woman is in bed with them when she is having sex with her husband. She is sensing his unbroken soul-tie, his spiritual bond with a previous mate. It is this same intuition that enables a woman to sense when her spouse is cheating on her. When the tie is broken, this sense of the presence of another will go away.

In conclusion: All soul-ties aren’t bad and some are essential. First, we want our souls fully tied to Christ. We renew and strengthen that tie by communion and walking by His Spirit. We want to be “one mind” with the Lord (1Corinthians 2:16, Philippians 4:2). We also want and need this oneness with our mate, being “ longer two but ONE...” (Matthew 19:6).

Breaking soul-ties and curses is done from the heart, with the mouth, and with the blood and name of Jesus. Romans 10:9-10 “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” Revelation 12:11 “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony;” But first be sure your heart is clean before trying to break soul-ties and curses.